Logistics: What happens when you live with your parents?

I remember David saying that when you get good, all you have to manage is Logistics. I also hear this from other social artists in the field. One dating company, apparently, focuses solely on teaching their clients how to manage logistics. So yeah, logistics are important.

So what is logistics? There is a class in the acolyte level on managing logistics, but to sum it up, it refers to managing "Friends, public and private spaces, distances, time, the environment, emotional direction and mini-logistics" There's a lot to be said about those variables, which I just took off his slides, but that's not really the focus of this post. The question that I heard more often, when it comes to logistics in Singapore, is this:

"Dude! I met this girl at the club and I wanted to bounce her somewhere so I can close her, but I didn't have anywhere to bring her to! I can't bring her home because I live with my parents!"

I asked David about this problem before, and he broke it down for me. Basically, you have 2 choices: Short term and Long term fixes.

The Short term solution requires really solid planning and logistical awareness. This means that on the night of the seduction, you plan to close her in one of these areas:

1. parking lot
2. void deck
3. handicap toilet
4. budget hotel (or a fancy one if you can afford it)
5. Dark corner/isolated grass patch
6. Her place (if she lives with someone)
7. ...basically any place available that night that you think you'll be undisturbed. It depends on your creativity.

The problem with the short term solutions is that it's mostly once off. And most girls don't want to have sex with you again if you're always going to do it at handicap toilets (It's not romantic they say)

Now in the long term, however, you have the following options:

1. Sex in your car (if you have a car)
2. Move out and get a place of your own
3. Condition your parents (and family) to accept that you are going to be bringing girls home (And they will be leaving in the morning lol)

David advocates number 2, which in all honesty, is a bit odd in the Singaporean context. We just happen to live with our parents. We had a discussion once where David was sharing how young adults move out of their parents home when they are of age, and its a cultural norm there, so he never really had to deal with this problem. He made certain comparisons between the rental rates in New York and Singapore and how they were comparable (Cheaper even in singapore?) and that if that's done in New York, it can be done here. 

But that's an expensive option, to be frank, and a bit strange in Singapore.

The only other option available is number 3, which I think takes a bit of time to implement. You basically have to get your parents to see you bringing many girls home, and then progressively to your room. It takes time to condition them. At some point, your parents will probably ask you what you're doing bringing so many girls home, and you need to manage that by telling them that you're actively dating and this is the way that you want to do it. Be strong, be firm, and make sure that this is what you want, because it will cause friction within your family for some time. You need to be of the frame that this is normal for me and that I am man enough to bring girls back to my home.

On a side note, if you have over friendly parents, like mine, that will offer cookies and drinks to any guests and ask them about what they do, you need to manage that as well. Tell them to tone it down;)

Singapore Dating Academy: AURA